New Year's Resolutions

Monday, 4 January 2016

So speaking about the new year...

Did you make a new year's resolution?

Have you ever made a new year's resolution?

Kept a new year's resolution?

I feel like a lot of people have opinions about new year's resolutions....myself included.


I see a lot of people making fun of new year's resolutions on social media.

Lots of memes. Cranky, jaded tweets and statuses.

Why?

Because people don't typically keep new year's resolutions?

Emma did not make a resolution to become a yogi...don't let her smile fool you. 


This past fall, I took a course in motivational interviewing.  People that work in the psychology/counselling field, dietetics/nutrition field, education field, and even some physicians, are used to this term (and I am sure that I am missing a bunch of others..my apologies).

Motivational interviewing is basically a fancy way of determining someone's readiness for change.

What I learned from the course:

(and on an aside...this is my perception of what I think what motivational interviewing is all about...certainly not taken word for word from the presentation)

- humans are not really designed to make change from their "ordinary" (and many human's version of "ordinary" may not be the best in terms of lifestyle...and certainly humans have difficulty wearing allll the hats)

- asking a human to change, is asking them to do something that is outside of their "ordinary" (this could be anything from quitting smoking, to trying a vegetable, to keeping in touch more with friends).

- shaming or forcing someone is never going to motivate or help someone to make a change (in fact it can be more damaging in the long run...because if they decide they want to make a change, they would never come back to you for help)

- people will most likely have difficulty along the way to making change

- how you react to someone's difficulty in making change can negatively or positively affect someone's ability to or success in making change

- people want to hear acknowledgement about how tough it is to make change


So what does this have to do with New Year's resolutions?

Why use social media to make fun of someone, that may be on your newsfeed, and unbeknownst to you, is trying to or wanting to make a change?

Cuz it may, in turn, affect someone's feelings about making change.

If you think new year's resolutions are BS.... that's cool.  Don't make them and be a supportive ear and cheerleader, to someone that is trying to make change.

ORRR maybe make a new year's resolution to be less judgemental.

End of new year's resolution rant.

K.










1 comment :

  1. Well said! Change is hard, scary and daunting. If we could all be a little more supportive of each other than we might all be a little more successful!

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